Gandalf really knew what he was talking about:
“I wish it need not have happened in my time," said Frodo.
"So do I," said Gandalf, "and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.”
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
With the outbreak of COVID19 impacting millions of couples around the world, we just wanted to say hey, it's ok to be mad, sad, or whatever you might be feeling at having to postpone or cancel your special day and we are here for you. We understand that this was supposed to be one of the most special days of your life. You've been planning for weeks, months, years even! It was supposed to be this magical day where you marry your best friend while celebrating with your friends and family and you know what... it still can be.
We all know that everything is uncertain right now; it seems the new Public Health Orders are changed every five minutes and it's the epitome of frustrating. Though, if we all do our part to stay distant and healthy, things will eventually return to "normal" (whatever that looks like, who knows!) The point is there are many things you can do right now to help combat what we like to call the Marital Postponement Blues, a play on Post Marital Blues (if you don't know what Post Marital Blues are, it's real and worth researching!)
According to an article from The Knot, Sarah Stukas, a licensed clinical professional counselor, and therapist at Life Insight tells us that "It’s important for couples to know that whatever they’re feeling—sadness, disappointment or frustration - is completely valid - it’s healthy to acknowledge your feelings during this time—doing so will allow you to move past sadness and start building towards positivity." And she is absolutely right! Now we understand it might be hard to navigate and work through those feelings, as with any situation in life, but the benefits and outcomes that come after are well worth the discomfort.
In a time where everything is unpredictable, uncomfortable and just plain crazy, everyone is feeling some sort of anxiety/depression about the current state of the world. We all feel rather helpless right now, myself included, but we can all change the way we think about things using one simple trick: The Law of Attraction. Now I know what you're thinking, "I didn't come here for a philosophy lecture, Becca," and that's not why I'm here either. But I firmly believe that we all need to lift each other up and get through this madness together.
Now, the Law of Attraction is a theory that like attracts like. This means that if you are constantly talking about negative things, guess what you are going to notice more of? Negative things. The same goes for positivity! A fantastic example is Chris Traeger from the show Parks and Recreation.
“How We Deal With Tragedy Defines Who We Are.”
Relentlessly positive, he understands what it feels like when things don’t go your way. He radiates kindness and positivity even during his darkest moments. In moments like these, he often offers advice that cuts through false platitudes and quite literally sets us all on a path of healing. It's contagious!
When Andy fails his entrance exam for the police force, Chris hits him with worldly wisdom that explains why the experience will only make him stronger. Chris would have been there for Andy in success or failure, and it was how he dealt with his friend’s tragedy that defines who he is as a person.
Now obviously this is a little different than having to postpone your wedding but the mindset is still the same. Essentially what I'm trying to say, is that you have a choice over how you want to live your life and handle the tough situations that arise. In the case of postponing your wedding, know that it's not forever, nor will it be any less special. Keep planning, keep the excitement alive and remember why you're getting married in the first place: the Love of your Life. Plus, the suspense will intensify and you'll be able to celebrate that much more!
In the case that you've simply had to cancel your wedding entirely, my heart goes out to you most sincerely. It could not have been an easy decision to make, but I'm am positive that it was the right one for you. Your emotions are still valid and your grief no less important.
What the world needs right now is love (yes I have the Jackie DeShannon song in my head) and a lot of it, at a responsible social distance of course. We are all in this together and I see a bright future ahead of us if we can only manifest it together. I know there is no guarantee of what the future holds but of the things we can control, I'm excited and ready to face it head on. I hope you'll join me!
In other news, due to the unforeseeable ability to host weddings, we here at Once in a Lifetime are proud to announce a few changes to our services:
Now until October 2020 we are offering 30% off our Wedding Planning Package (which includes Day-Of Coordination and 20% off all Coordination Packages! Let us help you navigate through this difficult time and help get you organized for your special day!
We are now offering Elopement Photography as one of our packages! Specially designed to be flexible with your schedule and friendly with your budget. We are offering 20% off for couples who had to cancel their wedding.
We are also offering 20% off all of our Event Photography Packages to couples who are rescheduling their wedding and still need a Wedding Photographer.
We want to go on amazing adventures and capture as much love as possible!
However daunting and unpredictable the future may seem for us all, we are determined to manifest and spread love. We are here for our clients, current and new, and will continually strive to provide the best services at the best value, because we truly believe you deserve it.
Wishing you all a very safe Memorial Day Weekend. Thank you, as always, for reading!
Until next time.
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