"What we need is a good opening sentence. Something that will smack the reader right between the eyes, and then take him on a virtual roller-coaster ride of self-awareness and discovery."
— Frasier Crane (Kelsey Grammer), Frasier, Season 1: Author, Author
Hello gorgeous (yes I mean you!) Are you a Bride who has been dreaming of her fantasy wedding since she was seven? Or are you a Bride who hasn't given it a second thought since he popped the big question?
Regardless of which you are, this post is for you!
As a Wedding Planner and Coordinator, it is my duty to gather all the information, details and put it all together to create the Wedding of your dreams. To provide advice, feedback, and overall expertise to take the stress away from finalizing your big day.
With that being said, I cannot stress enough that whether you are a hardcore planner (like myself) or you are more go-with-the-flow, you have to know what it is you want.
Sounds pretty self explanatory right? You're probably thinking, "of course I know what I want, who is this crazy lady?" Well believe it or not, there will always be details that are forgotten about, or details you didn't even know you had to figure out.
As a professional, it is my job to bring these details to light so you have time to make decisions and really think about what you want and how you want it. I supply my Brides with checklists, and I help them establish timelines for specific details so we can ensure every detail gets taken care of. Sounds easy right? I wish.
More often than not, I work solely with the Bride. I encourage couples to work together on their details but typically my ladies take over the Planning role. If you are like many, many brides out there, you have an image in your head but don't have a way of explaining the details of what you want nor how to achieve this image. I get Brides who have this image but don't tell me that it's their vision and come two weeks before the big day, when we are finalizing everything, all these details come out of nowhere with little to no means of executing them. That's where the communication with your Planner/Coordinator is essential! We can and will do whatever is reasonably necessary to make your vision become reality but you have to communicate with us. Believe me, if I could read minds, I WOULD EVERYDAY! So even if it means sending me your entire Pinterest page, do whatever helps you portray the image you want us to re-create for you!
Too often I also have Brides who "don't want to be a bother," or have a "what will happen, will happen" mentality. First of all missy, you could never be a bother! This is your wedding, your special day, and it is my duty to make the planning process as well as the day itself as happy, stress-free and memorable as possible! Don't ever apologize for asking for what you want. Not only does it help your planner help you, it creates a better relationship full of communication and trust essential for this kind of en devour.
Second of all, while planners can often times appreciate some free reign to unleash their creativity, we still need some sort of input from our Brides to head in the right direction. Again, we can't read minds, and the last thing we would want is to create an event our clients hate. As a planner by nature, I have a hard time 'living in the moment' when it comes to big, important events in my own life, so to expect me to Wing It for your wedding is like telling a kid he can't pet the animals in a petting zoo. (Dramatic I know, but you get the point!) And to be perfectly honest, I do not recommend winging anything when it comes to a Wedding, even if it's a small, intimate gathering or elopement. There are still so many details that need attention if you want things to run smoothly and hassle-free.
Any who, I did not begin writing this post to rant about my addiction to planning (shh don't tell anyone,) I simply want my Brides to understand that I really am here to help them. I want to help you; I want to take care of those details no matter how elaborate or how simple; it's just what I do. All I ask is that you communicate with me and place your trust in my abilities; a black and white relationship with no gray areas. This will make sure we are both successful and your Wedding can go off without a hitch (other than you getting hitched!)
So to wrap up here is my advice: Talk to your Planner/Coordinator; tell them every detail (no matter how silly it feels) as if they are your Wedding therapist. Tell them your hopes, dreams, fears, everything. We will take everything you tell us and use it to perfect our work. Not to mention we completely understand that Wedding planning is not easy, it's really stinkin' hard sometimes, but that's why we are here to help you; consider us your Wedding Guru, Therapist, Psychiatrist, whatever helps get you through to tying the knot.
Frasier: "Well, do you want me to answer as a friend, or a therapist?"
Roz: "As a friend."
Frasier: "See a therapist."
— Dr. Frasier Crane, Frasier, Season 3: Loves Roz
In the end, it is my hope that my clients will become my friends; to build a lasting relationship that will always bring a smile to our faces. I always look forward working with new clients and will always reminisce about my past ones. All I can do is thank you for allowing me to be a part of this special time in your life.
Thank you for reading, as always!
This is Bex signing off, wishing you good mental health... I mean Wedding Planning.